What creates it, and what does not. Two inputs produce extrinsic value. The first is time remaining: the longer a contract has to run, the more opportunity there is for the underlying to reach a level that makes the contract worth exercising. The second is expected movement: the more widely the underlying is expected to swing, the greater the chance of reaching such a level in whatever time is left. The SEC's own list of what determines an option's premium names both, alongside the relationship between the stock price and the strike, and only that third item produces intrinsic value. Notably, direction is not an input. Extrinsic value is larger when a stock is expected to move a lot, whichever way it moves.
Where it is largest. Extrinsic value peaks around the money and shrinks in both directions from there. A deep in-the-money option is nearly all intrinsic value, because exercise is close to certain and there is little left to be uncertain about; a very far out-of-the-money option has little of either component, because the odds of the contract ever mattering are slim. The at-the-money contract is the one where the outcome is undecided, and that uncertainty is exactly what the second component prices.
Decay, and why it is not a straight line. Extrinsic value falls toward zero as expiration approaches, for the simple reason that the thing it prices, remaining opportunity, is running out. FINRA's glossary describes the effect under its own heading: "Time decay is a term used to describe how the theoretical value of an option 'erodes' or reduces with the passage of time. Time decay is referred to in trading parlance as theta." The erosion is not even across the contract's life. For a contract at or near the money it accelerates as expiration nears, because the last days remove a much larger share of the remaining opportunity than the first days did; a contract far out of the money has little remaining opportunity to lose, so it does not show the same late acceleration. Neither FINRA nor the SEC publishes a decay rate, and this page prints none. At the moment of expiration there is no time left and no uncertainty left, so extrinsic value is zero and an option is worth exactly its intrinsic value.
The consequence that actually costs people money. A buyer of an out-of-the-money option is buying extrinsic value and nothing else. Being right about direction is not enough; the move has to be large enough and has to arrive before the contract expires. The position can lose money while the stock moves the predicted way, if it moves too slowly, because decay is taking value out at the same time. On the other side, a seller of options is collecting extrinsic value and is paid for waiting, which is why option writing looks like an income strategy and behaves like selling insurance.
How the number is arrived at, stated honestly. Extrinsic value is not computed from a formula and then added to intrinsic value; it is what is left over after subtracting intrinsic value from a price the market has set. Option pricing models run the relationship in the other direction, taking a volatility assumption and producing a theoretical price, and the market price can then be run back through the model to infer what volatility assumption it embeds. That inferred figure is implied volatility, and it is an output of a model rather than a measurement, which is worth remembering whenever a quoted "fair value" is being compared with a real one.