The standard the job is held to is high, and it is not "do your best". Under the Uniform Probate Code a personal representative "is a fiduciary who shall observe the standards of care applicable to trustees", and is under a duty to settle and distribute the estate "as expeditiously and efficiently as is consistent with the best interests of the estate". Both halves matter. The fiduciary standard imports duties of loyalty and prudence borrowed from trust law. The expeditiously-and-efficiently duty is what a frustrated beneficiary eventually points to, and it cuts both ways: an executor who distributes fast to keep the peace has a different problem, described below.
The sequence, and why it is a sequence. Take control of the property and keep it safe, which the Code makes a duty rather than an option, including paying the taxes on it and taking reasonable steps to preserve it. Identify and value what the estate holds. Notify known creditors and publish notice for unknown ones. Let the claim period run. Pay what is owed in the order state law requires. File the decedent's final income tax return, which Internal Revenue Code section 6012(b)(1) makes the executor's job, and a fiduciary income tax return if the estate itself earns income; file a federal estate tax return if the gross estate exceeds the basic exclusion amount, under section 6018(a). Only then distribute, and close.
🔴 Personal liability is the part that is under-described everywhere, and it comes from two directions. The state rule is that an executor may pay a just claim early, but is "personally liable to any other claimant whose claim is allowed and who is injured by its payment" if the payment was made before the claim period ended without requiring security for a refund, or if it negligently deprived another claimant of their priority. The federal rule is blunter and does not vary by state: under 31 U.S.C. 3713(b), a representative of an estate "paying any part of a debt of the person or estate before paying a claim of the Government is liable to the extent of the payment for unpaid claims of the Government." Distributing to the beneficiaries counts. So the pressure every executor feels, from relatives who want their money and cannot see why it is taking so long, is pressure to do the one thing that can make the executor pay out of their own pocket.
The order of payment is state law, and there is no national list. Where the estate cannot pay everything, statutes rank the claims, typically putting administration costs and funeral expenses first, then family allowances, then debts and taxes with federal preference, then other preferred claims, then everything else, with no preference within a class. The categories and their order genuinely differ between states, so the right move is to read the statute of the state where the person was domiciled rather than to work from a general list.
Compensation is real, and it is not a percentage. The Uniform Probate Code entitles a personal representative to "reasonable compensation", allows them to renounce a compensation provision in the will and take reasonable compensation instead, and allows them to renounce compensation entirely. A small number of states set statutory fee schedules; most do not. A family member serving as executor commonly waives the fee, which is usually the right call where they are also a beneficiary, because a fee is taxable income to them while an inheritance generally is not.
When you are finally off the hook. Under the Uniform Probate Code, once a closing statement is filed, claims by successors and remaining creditors against the personal representative for breach of fiduciary duty are barred unless brought within six months, with fraud, misrepresentation and inadequate disclosure expressly carved out. Keeping the records that show what was done and why is therefore worth more after the job ends than during it.
⚠️ Being named executor and being named guardian are two different acts with two different mechanisms. The court appoints the personal representative, and nobody may act before letters issue. A guardian for a minor child, in Uniform Probate Code states, is appointed by the parent, by will or other signed writing, and that appointment takes effect on the parent's death or on defined findings about their capacity. So the shorthand "the will nominates and the court appoints" is accurate for the executor and wrong for the guardian, even when one document names the same person as both.